How it works in 6 steps
1. Choose event and book online
2. Create profile on app
3. Arrive on time
4. Event briefing
5. Ice-breaking mixed groups
6. 1 to 1 introductions
To understand how and why our events are structured , you will need to understand our main aims and objectives and thus the expectations. Through the event we hope to:
- Make you better understand relationships and the opposite sex in the modern world
- Be more confident about yourself with the opposite sex.
- Communicate that confidence to the opposite sex
- Finally and most importantly, meeting people of your interest based on the Prophetic tradition on the importance of seeing the spouse before getting married.*
How it works – in detail…
Arrival, registration and profile completion
Participants arrive in good time at the venue. In short our events is structured two parts – Group ice-breakers and then followed by one-to-one meeting with the participants and we have devised an in-house Marriage Event App to facilitate the whole process.
A person who is interested in participating in the event will be asked to fill in a profile on our Marriage Event App, a link will be sent after registration and payment (usually a week before the event) and the profile will contain basic biographical information as well as space to add what you hope to offer a potential spouse and you they are looking for. How the app works will be detailed in the confirmation email and explained by the host on the day of the event.
Each individual is assigned a numbered badge to enable clear identification. In order to create an environment that is consistent with Islamic principles, the format of our events is carefully managed to minimise unnecessary ‘free-mixing’ while ensuring that everyone has an opportunity to be introduced. While some Muslim marriage events have chosen to replicate Western styles of ‘speed-dating’ based on one-to-one meetings lasting 2-3 minutes, we have developed an alternative method based on a group rotation that allows for all participants to meet within initial small groups where, with the help of a group facilitator, participants are encouraged to introduce themselves and offer responses to a series of ice-breaker questions with some light-hearted questions. After introductions in small groups, the women remain seated while men are asked to move onto the next group and continue introductions and rotations until all participants have been introduced. People are encouraged to make note of anyone they are interested in speaking to further (usually on their app).
Group ice-breaking sessions are facilitated in circles of around 10 of equal sexes, which provide an opportunity to meet and view in an Islamic manner, gauge opinions and standpoints in life before making an ‘informed’ decision whether to meet the person later on. Group sessions are chaired by experienced facilitators maintaining the conversations which last around on average 7-10 minutes.
The second part of the event focuses on facilitating one-to-one meetings between interested parties where they are free to exchange contact details if they choose to. Friends or mahrams are strongly encouraged to attend to give moral support in the whole process. We try to arrange a minimum of 5 meetings or more subject to interest from both parties. We can not promise interest from either side and can not take blame for no interest at all. All confirmed meetings, declines, interests, follow ups after the event, and viewing of profiles are managed through our Marriage Event App
Follow up Services
Most participants tend to meet everyone at the event and exchange details but we also give the opportunity to communicate after the event via our database service – Full details of the follow up service is explained on the day of the event.